Red butts (cont)

 

Where and how to hit

 

 

There are areas (the lighter ones in the picture) where slaps feel better, and areas where they feel bad (the darker, the worse). Even when most of the smacks should fall in the lighter areas, the proportion among them and the others will depend on the purpose of the spanking. We are going here to talk about  punishment spankings, because there is a full article about sensual or sexual spankings in the site.

 

If you are punishing her, you are supposed to be angry, disgusted. So, speak harshly, call her by her full name, give sharp orders. Don’t be nice during the punishment. Reserve it for later.

 

For punishment, you should hit frequently on the less pleasurable areas, especially at the thighs.

 

Don’t try to hit both sides simultaneously. Hitting one side at a time permits a better control, and a better spreading of the results.

 

No warm up period is needed for a punishment spanking (but you’ll risk more bruising). A warm up period (beginning with soft hand slaps and rising the intensity slowly) is a must for all other sessions, even if you plan to end with a brutal caning. In punishment sessions you can hit hard and fast from the beginning.

 

You have a choice here: for maximum pain and longer lasting consequences, you could choose one place on each side, for instance the point where the buttocks meet the thighs, which is the most sensible, and hit always in the same spots alternating sides. With a pace slightly faster than the time it takes for the bottom to absorb the pain, it will mount and mount, damaging deeper at each slap, for something to remember when sitting the next day. When you think it is enough, move the spanking to another place (or just continue until she has two tomato red spots).

 

Another possibility is hitting in a pattern, say up right, up left, low right, low left ( or three areas, top, middle, bottom). For this having the same effect you would have to hit faster than in the one above. The result will be that all the buttocks are thoroughly reddened (if you hit also on the thighs, she will seem to be using deep red shorts).

 

 

Even when a regular pattern is better for the pain’s accumulation, it is too comfortable for the punished being able to anticipate where the next smack will fall, so, after a while, you should surprise her with changes of rhythm, or of pattern. You could give her some slaps in the inside of the thighs, or at the sides of the buttocks, every now and then. Try for a while giving several very fast slaps on the same spot.

 

After some time, change the rhythm. A furious dose of very fast slaps is overwhelming. Then, for a while, hit slower but harder.

 

Stop every now and then for massaging the buttocks, not for caressing, but for delaying the numbness produced by nerve overload. You could use these rests to remind her why she is being punished, or for asking her if she repents, or what she will to do to avoid another punishment. I, for one, hate those intervals. My bottom high in the air and hurting, I want the punishment to finish. It’s not for me the right moment for some chat. So, do it.

 

As a variation, you can try another technique for your amusement: spank at the rhythm of the music. Find a song with the appropriate rhythm, and use it to pace your slaps. After some time, the bottom’s buttocks will seem to be dancing to the music.

 

How hard and for how long?

It depends on the bottom's sensibility, but the old disciplinarians thought that for a punishment to be such, it should last until the spanked stops fighting back, and submits to the punishment.

 

Some tears are required. Other possibilities I’ve heard from mothers and fathers is “until she stops crying” or “until my arm hurts”, but they are probably abusive. Also, from a (¿fictional?) headmistress:

“A spanking or caning is only effective, as a punishment, if it is inflicted to beyond the stage where it is bearable. It must be painful enough for the punished to completely lose its self-composure during the thrashing, and surrender to the uncontrolled vocal reaction of cries or screams.”

For a BDSM couple, I believe (but I’m not an authority)  that it should be as hard as it is possible without making the bottom use the safe word.

 

And after the spanking?

Even if all scenes should end in hugs and caresses, comforting the bottom, and showing her that she is cherished and beloved, and even when punishment sessions are not an exception, I think that it should be delayed for some time in this case. Make her get up and send her to the corner with her hands over her head or her arms crossed at the back.

 

There is a conflict in here. If you don’t let her touch her bottom after the spanking, the sting will last longer, but you will lose one of the pleasures of spanking: to see the punished dancing in pain while rubbing her nether cheeks. Your choice: her suffering by not rubbing, or your pleasure by letting her do it.

 

Sending her to the corner is not only convenient to make her suffering longer and to let her some time for thinking on her behavior, but also for allowing you to see her contorting, dancing a little, and to admire your handiwork, looking at her red and puffy bottom.

 

Then make her thank you for her punishment, ask for forgiveness, tell you her good intentions for the future, make her humiliate herself. Showing remorse is a necessary condition for forgiveness, and a sign that the chastisement was severe enough.

 

And then, finally, the hugs and caresses, showing her that she is forgiven and that all will be right from now on.

 

Published: 06/06/03