Sensual (or sexual) spanking (cont)

 

The spanking

And then you can begin with soft slaps with your hand. (All sensual spankings should begin softly and with the hand, no matter how hard you both like to play). The bottom’s skin needs a warm up. A well-warmed area allows her to endure much more pain afterwards.

 

Do not put your hand rigid, as a paddle. Let it relaxed, hit with a whipping action. Mix slaps, a little harder all the time, with touching and caressing. When you think that she had enough of that, rise the skirt (or lower the slacks, or whatever is needed) and continue over the pants. Begin hitting softer than the last ones, and build to stronger ones again. Remember caressing, massaging, and kneading throughout the session.

 

All the spanking should be that way. Soft to strong, until reaching the point where it begins to hurt, maintain there for a while, then caresses, then begin again at an intermediate point, for reaching a harder level than before, again and again. When caressing, run your fingers by the flesh softly, cup the buttocks, touch the sensitive areas, rub gently the bottom.

 

And then take down the pants, and begin again caressing the bare skin, and hitting from soft to hard. Depending on your bottom’s preferences, the cycles can repeat with different instruments, a slipper, paddle, and even a cane or a whip (supposing you have enough control of the implements to do it right, without hurting the bottom more than required). The spanking can be, should be, painful, but well within the subs limits.  

 

The session must be carefully balanced by the top. Knowing your bottom helps. But you must be constantly attending her body responses. The experience is not going to be good if your bottom ends the session sleeping, or if she stops it crying desperately the safe word. There should be pain involved but pleasurable pain, the pain she can enjoy, touching but never passing her limit. (If you don’t know what am I talking about, read Can somebody enjoy pain?).

 

The caresses between the spanking bursts gives time to the body to release endorphins, and that is what allows the bottom to bear more pain each time, and gives the nerves time to recover, avoiding the numbness the spanks can produce. Of course, there is a limit, probably when all receptors of endorphins are used, or when the body depleted its stock of raw materials. The limit also varies for many other reasons. Do not assume that because the last time your bottom enjoyed a hard caning, she is not going today to reach her limit with the slipper, or even with the hand. Be careful and perceptive.   

 

Where to spank?

There are also areas for more pleasurable spankings, as shown in the figure below. But every bottom has her own preferences, of course.

 

 

Hit mainly inside the pleasurable area. Avoid hitting the same place again and again, because pain builds faster that way. Try hitting with a pattern, for instance high, then middle and then low in the left, repeat on the right, so she can anticipate where the next blow will fall, and prepare herself.  

 

Depending on the bottom, sometimes a long and slowly increasing spanking predictable and rhythmic has an almost hypnotic effect, that makes her reach the ecstagony. Try periods of rhythm, with surprises (a missing blow, a fast series of repeated blows in the same area, a hit in the thighs or the inside of the buttocks) for added excitement, but do not overdo it.

 

What you are trying to do in a sensual spanking is to get her a high on endorphins, that takes her to that place, the sub-space, the space of the submissive, where she is one with the universe, in peace and far from the pain and worries. This is not easy to reach, needs trust, skill and practice, but you can make her reach that point. And she will never forget. Or perhaps she reaches an orgasm.

 

The sexual spanking, instead, is for arousing both of you. Don’t limit your touch to the buttocks and thighs, touch her genitals, her anus, tickle the inside of her thighs, make her wriggle against your lap to rub your genitals, alternate sexual play with spanking.

 

Using instruments

If your hand begins to hurt (I love that hot tingle on my hand after some time spent spanking), or if your bottom needs a harsher experience, you can use instruments, but under the same guidelines. At the end of each series, you should be hitting hard enough for giving her pain, but not as hard as for making the experience a punishment. And of course, touching and caressing is still needed. If you have to bend your bottom over a chair, or in any other position, try to maintain as much body contact as practical, holding her with a hand on the small of her back, or holding her hands at her back, for helping help her stay in position and for keeping in contact.

 

After

And how do you finish? Of course, I will not explain how to finish a sexual spanking. Either you already know, or you lied about your age.

 

A sensual spanking should finish softly. A spanking is a very demanding experience for your bottom, physically and emotionally. You can make the spanks less and less strong until they become caresses. If you were using an instrument, return to your hand. Depending on your bottom preferences, you can let her rest in her own world, maybe just holding her hand, or hug and kiss her, telling her about your love, showing her that you care. A massage with baby oil is good and will soothe her reddened skin.

 

I hope that these hints make your scenes more pleasurable for you and your bottom, and maybe both of you can say, with me, “Oh, I love this game!”

 

Published: 02/03/03