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The distance between you and the target is critical for all whips, because it will determine how much of the tails will hit your subject, and if you will wrap the tails around her.
When the point of a tail pass beyond the target and wraps around, it accelerates, hitting much harder when finally hitting, and likely hitting on dangerous or very painful places. The pillow will not protest, but your sub will. You should have enough control of the whip for never wrapping it unintentionally.
Before hitting, be sure that nothing else is at that distance. Rotate the whip slowly over your head, moving the arm from side to side. I you hit nothing, rotate the extended arm vertically at your side. The whip should only hit the floor, if long enough.
Now move it, always with your arm fully extended and rotating your hips, horizontally from as far back as you can, all around you, passing by the front and finishing as much to the left as you can.
The area covered by the whip in these movements is the area where only you and your target should be. If you hit something when maneuvering, move everything, including onlookers, out of it. If you can't, you should use a shorter whip. That is one of the reasons for long bullwhips being rarely used in BDSM.
For finding the right distance to the target, practice with an unanimated object, as a pillow or a teddy bear. You can hang the teddy bear by the neck (but never hang so your sub. She will be dead very fast). Position it at the height you plan to hit your sub, higher if planning to hit on the back, lower if on the buttocks.
Now stand a little to its side, in the correct stance, and throw the whip slowly to the front, with your arm fully extended but without leaning towards the target. Correct the position forward or backwards until you see the tips of the tails brushing lightly on the target.
When you are at the right distance, throw the whip leaning towards the target, as you would do when hitting hard. Now you can see how much of the tail is going to hit the subject.
If you just brush fast with the ends of the tails, you'll get some sting, but not a "thud", just like passing your nails over the skin. Basically (but it depends on the whip) as you get closer and hit with more length of the tail, you'll get progressively more pain and damage, and less sting.
Then, move forward or backwards from the original position for giving your sub the required sensations.
As in any other punishment game, if you are playing for sensation, for a sensual flogging, the warm up is important. It will prepare the skin of your bottom for the flogging to come. It will increase (for the endorphins release) your sub's pain threshold, and it could help diminishing the bruising. For an appropriate warm up, you will need a light flogger. Begin by caressing the subject with the tails, passing them over the skin. Then begin hitting, as soft as possible at the beginning and increasingly harder afterwards. Stop, caress her, for giving time to the adrenalin and endorphins build up, and recommence. The change to a heavier flogger and do it all over, until you have the skin a little reddened, and slightly warm to the touch.
For most submissives, a regular pace has some hypnotic effect. If the blows come at the expected intervals and places, you can concentrate in enjoying the sensations on your skin.
This doesn't mean that you should hit always on the same place, which can be annoying, but it should be always on the same side or alternating sides in a regular pattern. Of course, if the whip is used for punishing this can be changed. But for me the best results are obtained if hitting at a slow pace, giving time for the sub for fully feeling and absorbing the sensation or the pain, if that is the objective, and giving her some time for anticipating the feeling or pain of the next lash.
Use the interruptions for caressing or changing whips for resuming the flogging at a different pace.
I, for one, cannot enjoy (or suffer) a whipping if the lashes come irregularly and from anywhere, because it ruins my concentration, even if it is a punishment flogging.
Published: 05/20/04
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