Face slapping

 

You say the wrong thing, or do the wrong movement, and from nowhere and in flash, comes a hand that leaves your face tingling, your eyes watery and you feeling humiliated and punished. You’ve just received one of the oldest punishments, a slap on the face.

Face slapping is an exciting, controversial and dangerous game. So dangerous, that we will beg you, for your sub’s sake, not continuing with this article without reading first Safety: Face Slapping

It is controversial, because of its dangers and of its deep psychological implications. The victim will be thoroughly humiliated, and it can rekindle old mental scares, if your sub was slapped abusively on the face before.

Hitting in the face is degrading, insulting, humiliating. The impact of other’s hand on their faces is felt by most people as an intrusion in their privacy, a hit to their intimacy, much more than a blow on other parts of the body. It is just a point less insulting than being spit on the face.

So, before slapping your partner, be sure that that is what s/he wants. A non-consensual slap in the face, or one in the wrong moment, can spoil your game.

But it is actually exciting to receive a slap, even if light, for calling your attention, for informing you that you are misbehaving, as a warning that you are in the road to a more severe punishment. And to remind you who is actually in charge. You will feel as a child reprimanded by an adult.

 

Where and how to hit

There is ONLY ONE PLACE, the middle of the cheek. Do not hit higher or lower. And remember that the slapped is going to move the head for trying to avoid the slap, so check your aim.

 

Relax you hand and your wrist and let your hand hit as if it was a strap. Do not put your hand rigid as a paddle.

Hit with the palm and the fingers, with force enough for stinging, but not for giving a deep pain, and be careful on where the fingers hit. The stinging is just superficial, from the skin. The pain is deeper and indicates some damage.

 

 

Or, if your hand is big compared with your submissive’s face, hit just with the fingers.

 

 

The slaps should be light but sharp. Go for the sting and not for the pain. Do not follow thru, turning your sub’s head. Stop the hand when just hitting his/her face. That is enough not only for stinging, but also for leaving a red mark, which, if your fingers are slightly opened, will draw on his/her face your hand’s imprint, a sensual sight.

 

How to play

With all the safety restrictions, the slapping game cannot be too physical. But the thrill of the game is not so much the physical effect, but the psychological one.

You can use it in many situations. As a warning, as we said above. For making your point, while scolding. Underline each of the rebukes with a slap in the face, for reinforcing the lesson. For showing who is in charge, when having some rough sex. And even for punishment.

You can hit always on the same cheek, for building on the sting of the preceding slap, or you can alternate cheeks, hitting alternatively in each one. You could hit each cheek with the opposite hand, or deliver the slaps alternating forehand and backhand (carefully, remember the knuckles) with the same hand.

Try a burst of three of four light but fast slaps in the same cheek and you will realize that is not necessary hitting hard for punishing.

A slapping ritual

For a grand finale my favorite: sit down on a chair, make your sub kneel between your knees, straight and with the hands at the back, bound if necessary.

Hold her head with one hand, by the nape of the neck, by a handful of hair, from her neck (carefully) or by her chin, forcing her to look at you, so you can see the fear in her eyes, her face contorting and her eyes blinking at each slap.

Begin scolding, explaining once again the rules, explaining the reason behind them, telling her how you expect her to behave from now on. And emphasize every sentence of what should be a long scold with a slap on her face.  Each slap stings just a little, but the repetition is very annoying. The discomfort builds up and, very soon, she will repentant, wondering if you’ll ever stop, her eyes filled with tears, her face reddening. She will remember the lesson for a long time.

Another possibility is doing it standing, holding her against a wall with your hand at the upper front of the neck, its top against the jaw, (be sure that you don’t restrict her breathing) forcing her head up. She can’t move her head back because of the wall, to the front because of your hand, and she has to stay there, looking at your face and receiving the unending slaps. (Forceful slaps will knock the back of her head against the wall. Don’t even try it).

 

It can also be done with her standing still, at attention, unsupported and unbound, accepting the slaps voluntarily, as deserved. No movement is allowed (thanks, Pavel)

Keep it safe, sane and consensual, and enjoy.
 

Published: 10/09/04

Revised: 03/08/96