We are a small group of friends who think and write this site the way we like to play our games, so we thought you could be interested in knowing which is such a way, because it will explain what is and what is not on the site.
We are middle-aged (well, maybe a little more...) people, with middle class values and lives. We are educated, having university degrees in something or the other, we must work for a living, and have wives, husbands, or something so (as most people of our age, some of us are divorced, and enjoying our second chance). Some of us have sons and daughters. And we believe in the same ethics and moral principles most Western civilization believes in. So, we think that we are “normal” people, as “normal” as anybody else.
Only, we were young at the large social change that coincided with the Beatles and the hippies. We “legalized” (and in many ways won) the youth rebellion. And we discovered , as probably many other people before us did along history, that sex was much more than just reproduction and the
"missionaries' position". But we accepted it openly and made it mainstream, for the first time in the West in many centuries (and not without opposition by the traditionalists, even today).
So, if we are not too daring, at least we are not too conservative. And we believe that, even with our greater freedom, there are moral limits and a “right” way of living, which we got and accepted from our parents, even if enlarged and somewhat adjusted.
Not being, and not even trying to be, “politically correct”, we don’t think that everything people do is right. For us, there is “right” and there is “wrong”. But we are ready to accept that what somebody does with a consenting partner behind closed doors, even if we think it’s wrong, is their problem, not ours. We will not try to force our values on anybody (so, please don’t try to force yours on us).
After some personal struggle, because it was beyond what even our generation admitted, we realized and finally had to accept that we were different in some ways. We liked submitting and dominating in fantasy as another way of relating to the other, as another way of sharing. And we realized also that a lot of people, even if a minority, enjoyed what we enjoyed. We were not “sexual perverts” or “sick”, just different.
After the acceptance, and being “normal” people, we live our games as we live sex. It has nothing to do for us with dark animal needs, suffering, guilt or perversion, as sex doesn’t. It is just a way of playing, of enjoying and sharing our fantasies. It is fun, it is joy, it is living the life. And as sex is, BDMS is a way of satisfying deep needs and cravings.
Paulo Coelho (we are not big fans of his, only, for us, he got this right) says:
“Every human being has a sexual profile, and should exercise it without guilt, as long as he doesn’t force anybody to exercise it with him” (our translation).
And we exercise ours with our willing partners playfully and joyfully, for our happiness and theirs.
We have limits, which are not the same for all of us, of course, but which have to do with the fact that you cannot disrespect, hurt or endanger another person. And this is what we offer you on the site.
There is no public exhibition of our sexuality, because our middle class morality doesn’t allow for it. You are free to enjoy your intimacy as you like, but you shouldn't force it into others that could be offended by it, or who could be uncomfortable with your demonstrations.
As we respect our partners, we don’t humiliate them in public or in real life, as we cannot hit, punish or abuse them but in our fantasy games and with their consent. And as we respect ourselves, we cannot let anybody do it to us in real life. And, in case you wonder, we meet socially as many couples do, and talk about many things including our BDSM tastes, but we have never played as a group, and we probably never will.
So, you will not find in the site pornography, dark fantasies, blood, pedophilia, or anything intended to revolt or offend anybody, not even nudity or explicitly sexual photos or descriptions. We don’t enjoy anal play or introducing things on the other’s orifices, we don’t like enemas, “water games” or “showers”, which we found disgusting (but somebody can like them). At a different level, we don’t feel excited by diapers or cross dressing, so we don’t do it.
If our contents can be considered mature, or even adult, in no way can be considered perverted or XXX rated by somewhat open-minded people.
What you will find here are suggestions for games for sharing with your playmate privately in your intimate moments. Games which enhance the power exchange by “punishing” your partner with spankings and the like, and with impositions and restrictions for highlighting who is in charge. “Light” BDSM games, if you want see it that way. Games which are safe, sane and should be consensual, as we define those terms. Games everyday people with everyday morals (but an open mind) can enjoy.
Games played “our way”.
Published: 02/24/05
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